You are not alone – we believe you
“Healing takes courage, and we all have courage,
even if we have to dig a little to find it”
Counselling provides a warm, safe, trusting, non-judgemental and confidential space where you can build a therapeutic relationship with your counsellor to explore how the rape and/or sexual abuse is impacting your life now.
In this space you can identify unhelpful behaviours/situations which you feel you want to change.
It is important that you attend counselling because you feel it is the right time for you, other people may be telling you to attend but the choice has to be yours. If you are unsure the following may help you make up your mind if it is the right time.
Is it the right time for me to attend counselling at the Birchall Trust?
Counselling is a two-way process in that the person coming to counselling needs to be ready to fully and actively engage in order for it to be helpful. Although a counsellor is unlikely to set you tasks between your sessions you do need to have time to;
- Reflect and think about what you have explored in your sessions, between each session.
- Process or start to understand what you have explored in your sessions, between each session.
- To be able to manage the often strong feelings and memories that can be brought to the surface.
- To think about what you want to focus on before you come in to sessions.
- There are times when your counsellor might suggest you do some reading, an activity, or self-help exercise that could be helpful to you.
It is therefore very important to consider the following in order to decide whether counselling is right for you at this time;
- Is this the right time for counselling? What makes it right or important for you to access counselling now?
- Do you have the support and resources you need to be able to cope with strong feelings that can be produced by focusing on difficult experiences? OR are you willing to work on developing these resources in order to be able to effectively use counselling?
- Counselling is likely to make you more self-aware of what feels uncomfortable or ‘not right’ for you and therefore less satisfied with situations that you may have been ‘putting up with’ for good reasons. It is possible that you may decide to make changes in your life that have longer term consequences or you may need to start taking responsibility for areas in your life that you have wanted to ignore, put off, or deny, for example
The counselling service we offer is not time limited, although you will review things with your counsellor as you go along, on a regular basis. But before you start it might be useful to think about; What would you like to have gained at the end of your sessions? How you can make the best use of the sessions?
If you have had counselling before;
- What was most helpful?
- Was there anything you felt needed to be different?
- What would help you make the most of your counselling with The Birchall Trust?
If you have any further questions, please do not hesitate to contact the office as we would be very happy to discuss these with you.